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Moms, Why Do We Feel Guilty?

Posted on 14. Jul, 2009 by Trish in Family Life

I was recently talking to a group of ladies and most of them were talking about how they feel guilty if they want to go out WITHOUT their kids.  Most of them haven’t had a girl’s night in so long they can’t even remember when the last time was.



My question is, why do we feel so guilty about having some time to ourselves?  We come back refreshed and a better mom/wife/person.  We are more relaxed after, and happier.  What’s that saying?  When momma ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy?

Another thing I noticed is most of these ladies said that their husbands/significant others tend to go out with the guys a lot.  So why do the guys get to go out, but not the ladies?

Most of the ladies said that their husbands work hard and deserve the break.  Which yes, I agree with, but I also believe that the ladies need a break too!

Work can be hard and tiring, but I remember when I worked outside the home I would come home, and more often than not I would be up for doing something.  I wasn’t really that tired.  I could go hang out with friends and their kids.  I was not  too tired to play with their kids and have fun.  So while the guys are working hard, I bet most of them have plenty of energy to come home and take care of their kids for a little while.

I remember growing up and thinking all I wanted to be was a mom.  Don’t get me wrong, I love it, but it is hard!  Especially when we only have one car and I have to stay at home all day.  It gets tiring and lonely, and I need a break.  I remember when my husband lost his job for a few weeks last year and he stayed home with us.  One thing I distinctly remember him saying was “It’s a lot harder to stay home and take care of Kaylee than I thought.”  Ah ha!  Finally he sees my point!

I have a girls night out every month, and it is great!  It’s always in the evening, after my daughter is asleep, so really my husband doesn’t have to take care of her, and he gets a night to himself too.

Why is it so hard for us women to feel like we deserve a break?  I think everyone deserves to have a break.  So ladies, stop feeling bad, and go out and have some fun!  You will feel much better and will be able to handle things better.

I think everyone deserves a break now and then, and you need to make it happen.

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